The unpredictable risks
In the eyes of many modern Vietnamese parents, sending children to foreign universities is the optimal solution to follow higher education.
Going studying abroad has become a growing tendency in Vietnam, especially after scientists voiced their criticism against the traditional education methods in Vietnam, saying that the methods have become out of date and Vietnamese students need to approach the modern western education style.
A lot of parents force their children to go studying abroad, even though the children do not want to. They hope that by studying in foreign countries, the children would become the “world’s citizens” who can live and work in all environments. The parents do not know that a lot of risks are awaiting in the “ideal environments.”
The death of a Vietnamese student at Golden West Community School recently shocked Vietnamese people. NMC, the victim, a student of the school, hanged at the inn in Westminster City.
Prior to that, on October 24, 2009, in San Jose, California, PH, a Vietnamese student was beaten with police batons for being suspected of attacking the roommate.
On July 17, 2009, the dead body of NMN, a Vietnamese student, was discovered in the wardrobe of a dorm room Queensway Singapore. N had been living in Singapore for just two months and following an English course at a school.
Ngoc Ha, a Vietnamese student in the UK, said that the students, who live far from their parents, always have to bear hard pressures. If they have bad learning records, or feeling shocks, they would not be able to find sympathy from relatives and friends like in Vietnam. Therefore, many of them try to commit suicide to end their tragedies.
Meanwhile, the living environment in foreign countries proves to be too different from Vietnam’s, while risks exist in many places. The cultural differences among the students from different countries always exist as a big barrier.
Spending money and only getting worse
Explaining why she decided to send the only daughter to a school in Australia, Thao Trang, an accountant officer of a foreign company said that she wants the girl to approach a modern education. “While other parents have to grow two or three children, I have only one child, and I want her to receive all the best things I can give her,” she said.
Trang related that she was very happy when the girl informed that she would return to Vietnam to celebrate Tet. However, Trang could not fetch the girl at the airport, because the girl decided to stay in Nha Trang sea city for several days before returning to Hanoi to meet the parents.
However, when arriving in Hanoi, the daughter refused to live together with parents at the home, when she was born and grown up, saying that she would stay in a hotel during the time in Hanoi.
Trang feels discouraged when realizing that the daughter has absolutely become a westerner: she does not like living with parents, and she does not intend to return to work in Vietnam after finishing school. Especially, the girl said she would send the parents to retirement homes when they get older. Meanwhile, in traditional Vietnamese families, grandparents, parents and children can live together in a home and take care for each other.
Le Thi Tuy, a consultant, has warned that sending children abroad should not be seen as the ideal solution to re-educate naughty children. A lot of parents now tend to send their children to foreign schools if the children fail the domestic university entrance exams. However, many of them cannot obtain a high education as their parents want. Though they spend money, but they only get worse.
Source: An ninh Thu Do